Maraly Cabán. Emotional intelligence as a revenue strategy.

The biggest leak in your sales pipeline isn’t a “No.” It’s her silence.

The world’s most influential buyer won’t debate price, push back on terms, or name a competitor. When connection is missing, she simply disappears, leaving no CRM record of the revenue you just lost.

Calculate the cost of her silence

The market by the numbers

She is not a segment. She is the market.

85%

Of purchase decisions

Made or influenced by women, including the couple in front of you.

Ida Liu, CEO, HSBC Private Bank

$31.8T

In purchasing power

Controlled by women globally. Every industry, every price point.

NielsenIQ / Boston Consulting Group

$124T

Transferring by 2048

And over 95% of inter-spousal wealth lands with her first.

Cerulli Associates, 2024

7 in 10

Feel misunderstood

By the sales professionals selling to them.

Terri & Sandy

49%

Of new US businesses

Opened by women in the last five years. Earned, not inherited.

Gusto, 2025

$34T

By 2030

Investable assets projected to be controlled by US women.

McKinsey & Company, 2024

The disconnect

The script never changed.
The buyer did.

Obsolete closing tactics were designed for speed, not connection. Objection handling was built to win, not to understand. For decades that worked, because the person across the table responded to it.

She doesn’t. The same techniques that once closed deals now quietly end them, and the loss never appears on a dashboard. By Monday it is “a tough market.” It wasn’t. She decided, and nobody on your team was in the room when she did.

You were trained beautifully, for a buyer who no longer sits across the table.
That is not an accusation. It is a date stamp.

The movement

Selling To Her™

She decides. The way the world sells was never built for her.

Selling To Her™ is a movement founded by Maraly Cabán: author, sales and revenue strategist, forty years in sales.

It begins from something that is no longer arguable: she makes or influences 85% of purchase decisions globally, but no sales process was ever designed for the way she decides. Not out of malice. Out of habit. The playbook was written when he was the one deciding, and nobody went back to update it.

So an entire generation of excellent salespeople is running correct instructions for a market that no longer exists, and losing her without ever hearing a no.

We believe connection is not a nice-to-have.

Without connection there is no conversion. Every technique built to pressure her past that fact makes it worse.

We believe she is not indecisive.

She is running a sequence nobody ever taught you to see, and she will not tell you which part of it you failed.

We believe emotional intelligence is not a soft skill.

It is a revenue strategy, it shows up in numbers, and it can be measured before commission moves.

This is not about selling softer. It is about selling smarter.

Selling To Her™ is what we believe. The S.E.X.Y. Method™ is how it gets done.

The Method

The S.E.X.Y. Method™

A proprietary revenue operating system for selling to women with emotional intelligence, built around one move: connect first.

Because without connection there is no conversion. And once you connect, you stop selling.

It replaces pressure, scripts, and persuasion with the four practices female buyers actually respond to. Four pillars, each tied to a moment where her trust is either built or lost.

The four pillars

S

Storytelling

One shift in how a conversation opens changes everything that follows.

E

Empathy

There is a version of empathy that builds trust, and one that destroys it. Most professionals are using the wrong one.

X

Xperience Curated

Female buyers who feel an experience was designed for them close at three times the rate of those who feel generically served.

Y

Your Authentic Self

The one advantage no competitor can replicate. And the most underused revenue tool in your business.

We do not teach scripts. There is no line that works on everyone, because no two buyers are alike. What we teach is how to connect at the door, before price ever enters.

What professionals experience after applying the S.E.X.Y. Method™

Price resistance drops.

She sees the value clearly when she feels safe and believes it will be delivered.

Decision cycles shorten.

She stops stalling when trust is built correctly from the first touchpoint.

Referrals multiply.

A client who arrives at her own yes without pressure advocates loudly and freely.

The Metrics

What if your KPIs are measuring yesterday’s buyer?

Emotional intelligence changed what closes a sale. It doesn’t change what most teams count. Traditional KPIs measure activity, not influence. They measure pressure, not presence. They measure what you did and never once how she felt while you were doing it.

What most teams track

  • Calls made
  • Appointments set
  • Follow-ups logged
  • Proposals sent
  • Pipeline volume
  • Conversion rate

A record of activity, reported after the deal is already over.

The Selling To Her™ KPIs what it measures

  1. 01
    Emotional Resonance ScoreHow seen, heard and understood she feels.
  2. 02
    Experience Quality IndexQuality of her overall buying experience.
  3. 03
    Decision VelocityHow quickly she moves to a confident decision.
  4. 04
    Reciprocity ReadinessHer willingness to engage and take the next step.
  5. 05
    Lifetime Advocacy ValueLong-term value from loyalty and advocacy.

Five numbers that move before commission does.

Your CRM reports the loss. These predict it.

Maraly Cabán

Founder and Author

Maraly Cabán

Sales and revenue strategist, best-selling author of Selling To Her™, and creator of the S.E.X.Y. Method™, a proprietary revenue operating system for selling to women with emotional intelligence, built around one move: connect first.

Forty years in sales, the last decade in Miami real estate, taught her the same lesson in negotiation after negotiation: a woman was almost always steering the decision, even when she wasn’t the one signing the check, and no sales training was built for that.

“The problem isn’t how many opportunities you have. It’s how many you’re losing without knowing why.” Maraly Cabán
The full story
Selling To Her: EQ Is Her New ROI, by Maraly Cabán

The book

Where the movement began

Eleven chapters on the buyer your industry has been quietly ignoring: why she disengages, what she is actually listening to, and how to build a sales conversation she wants to stay inside of.

The S.E.X.Y. Method™, a proprietary revenue operating system for selling to women with emotional intelligence, built around one move: connect first.

The research behind it

Sourced, and defensible.

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Ways forward

Where do you want to start?

For you

Agents, advisors, consultants, and founders selling directly to women.

  • Get the BookBest-selling book

    The whole movement, laid out in full: the buyer your industry has been ignoring, and the S.E.X.Y. Method™ behind it.

  • Revenue Gap CalculatorComplimentary

    See the size of your female revenue gap before you talk to anyone.

  • Book twenty minutesComplimentary

    A short call with Maraly. Complimentary.

  • The Strategic Fix30-day program

    Eleven modules, a workbook, a KPI tracker, and the language swap card. Your KPIs on day one, and the same KPIs again on day thirty.

  • 1:1 CoachingAfter the Fix

    Ongoing implementation support while you put the plan to work.

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For your organization

Sales leaders, learning and development teams, and conference organizers.

  • Corporate TrainingHalf day, full day, program

    The Method delivered to your sales floor.

  • Keynote SpeakingEnglish and Spanish

    A conference keynote on emotional intelligence as revenue strategy, built around the buyer your industry is quietly losing.

  • Start with one teamPilot

    Install the language and one measure with a single group, and see the movement before you commit the floor.

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